lovelustfridays | Toxicity, Trauma, and Trust | The Impact of Cultural Obligations on Abusive Marriages
Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Lena, an abusive marriage survivor from episode nine of lovelustfear, “He’s Your Problem Now.” They discuss Lena's toxic marriage and the influence of cultural obligations in her Armenian community, the nuances of recognizing abuse, and how she found her voice and empowerment through her second husband's supportive and matrilineal Native American culture. The conversation also highlights the themes of coercive control, gaslighting, financial manipulation, and the emotional toll these experiences have on physical health, including the long-term effects of trauma. Also, they discuss the importance of support systems and reflect on the necessity of self-care in the healing process.
They discuss Lena's toxic marriage and the influence of cultural obligations in her Armenian community, the nuances of recognizing abuse, and how she found her voice and empowerment through her second husband's supportive and matrilineal Native American culture. The conversation also highlights the themes of coercive control, gaslighting, financial manipulation, and the emotional toll these experiences have on physical health, including the long-term effects of trauma. Also, they discuss the importance of support systems and reflect on the necessity of self-care in the healing process.
topics | cultural obligations, empowerment, trauma recovery, self-care, mental health, women's rights, love, relationships, trauma, abuse, relationships, cultural expectations, toxic traits, vulnerability, healing, hashimoto's disease, independence, personal growth, podcasting, toxic relationships
Lena - Episode Link
"He’s Your Problem Now"
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-lena-hes-your-problem-now/id1735876283?i=1000657913302
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VuTd9CszCR6CyVMNmddRW?si=zHN5QTHhRXGe-VK61UY9jg
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (Author) (Book Recommended By Michele)
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
More About Hashimoto's Disease
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hashimotos-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351855
Music Playing During Lena’s Freedom Ride, aka “The Grapevine”
Siouxsie and the Banshees (Spotify Playlist)
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DZ06evO0KJgF1?si=k68HOnZbQVSZRBxD9OSVuQ
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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