Did Donna Adelson Use Narcissistic Control to Have Son-In-Law Killed?
Nov 20, 2023, 06:00 PM
Can the shadow of narcissism within a family lead to extreme criminal behavior? This question forms the core of a recent "Hidden Killers" podcast episode where host Tony Brueski and psychotherapist Shavaun Scott delve into the chilling case of the Adelson family. With Donna Adelson recently arrested and charged with first-degree murder, conspiracy to commit murder, and solicitation to commit murder shortly after her son, Charlie, was convicted, the family's dynamics have come under intense scrutiny.
Scott, a psychotherapist and author, sheds light on the complex nature of narcissistic personality disorder, particularly within a family setting. “The narcissist always acts in ways that benefit them in some way, and they're very self-focused, self-aggrandizing,” she explains. This behavior creates a family environment where children are used as tools, and their needs become secondary to the parent's desires.
In the Adelson family, these dynamics seem to have taken a dark and tragic turn. The podcast discussion reveals how Donna Adelson's alleged narcissism might have played a pivotal role in the family's descent into criminality. Scott speculates that Donna’s need for control and desire to have her children and grandchildren close could have been a driving force behind the murder. “The children are used as tools, and it's like the narcissistic parent or grandparent feeds off their kids,” Scott notes, highlighting the insidious nature of such family dynamics.
This conversation brings into focus the challenges faced by children of narcissistic parents. Scott emphasizes the difficulty these individuals face in recognizing the abnormality of their upbringing. “They don’t realize that this is abnormal because this is the fishbowl that they’ve swam in, their entire lives,” she states. For many, it takes years and significant life experiences to understand the toxic nature of their familial relationships.
As the podcast delves deeper, it becomes evident that narcissistic parents can be vengeful and hold grudges, often perceiving slights where there are none. This trait can escalate to dangerous levels, as seen in the Adelson case. Discussing the therapy process, Scott reveals that adult children of narcissists often seek help to unravel the confusion surrounding their identity and feelings towards their parents. “It’s like a big ball of yarn that’s all tangled up,” she describes the process of making sense of these complicated family dynamics.
The discussion also touches upon the seldom likelihood of narcissists acknowledging their problems. Scott estimates that less than 1 percent of severe narcissists ever realize or admit their issues. This insight is crucial in understanding the dynamics within the Adelson family and the unlikely possibility of a family member, particularly someone as allegedly controlling as Donna Adelson, recognizing their role in the tragic events.
This episode of "Hidden Killers" not only sheds light on the Adelson family's case but also raises broader questions about the impact of narcissistic personality disorders in families. As listeners reflect on this case, they might wonder: How often do the invisible threads of narcissism in a family weave a pattern leading to devastating consequences? And in cases as extreme as the Adelsons', can the cycle of narcissistic abuse and its dire outcomes ever be broken?
Scott, a psychotherapist and author, sheds light on the complex nature of narcissistic personality disorder, particularly within a family setting. “The narcissist always acts in ways that benefit them in some way, and they're very self-focused, self-aggrandizing,” she explains. This behavior creates a family environment where children are used as tools, and their needs become secondary to the parent's desires.
In the Adelson family, these dynamics seem to have taken a dark and tragic turn. The podcast discussion reveals how Donna Adelson's alleged narcissism might have played a pivotal role in the family's descent into criminality. Scott speculates that Donna’s need for control and desire to have her children and grandchildren close could have been a driving force behind the murder. “The children are used as tools, and it's like the narcissistic parent or grandparent feeds off their kids,” Scott notes, highlighting the insidious nature of such family dynamics.
This conversation brings into focus the challenges faced by children of narcissistic parents. Scott emphasizes the difficulty these individuals face in recognizing the abnormality of their upbringing. “They don’t realize that this is abnormal because this is the fishbowl that they’ve swam in, their entire lives,” she states. For many, it takes years and significant life experiences to understand the toxic nature of their familial relationships.
As the podcast delves deeper, it becomes evident that narcissistic parents can be vengeful and hold grudges, often perceiving slights where there are none. This trait can escalate to dangerous levels, as seen in the Adelson case. Discussing the therapy process, Scott reveals that adult children of narcissists often seek help to unravel the confusion surrounding their identity and feelings towards their parents. “It’s like a big ball of yarn that’s all tangled up,” she describes the process of making sense of these complicated family dynamics.
The discussion also touches upon the seldom likelihood of narcissists acknowledging their problems. Scott estimates that less than 1 percent of severe narcissists ever realize or admit their issues. This insight is crucial in understanding the dynamics within the Adelson family and the unlikely possibility of a family member, particularly someone as allegedly controlling as Donna Adelson, recognizing their role in the tragic events.
This episode of "Hidden Killers" not only sheds light on the Adelson family's case but also raises broader questions about the impact of narcissistic personality disorders in families. As listeners reflect on this case, they might wonder: How often do the invisible threads of narcissism in a family weave a pattern leading to devastating consequences? And in cases as extreme as the Adelsons', can the cycle of narcissistic abuse and its dire outcomes ever be broken?
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