00:00.00 tduval18 It is a hundred or what is it? Why was I about to sing that and I have walked 500 I was like that's not the right we could we could so this is our hundredth us. So that's so.

00:01.16 Ashley 100 years no I'm skidding no but that's. I mean you can change it. That's where who would have found it.

00:19.54 tduval18 Not I who would have thought it would have seen us here you seen that Paul Rudd Meme I love it because I love it so much like anytime so puts that in there I'm like this is that's a that's a prima one? um.

00:22.39 Ashley I have I have a hot hot ones. Yeah.

00:34.45 tduval18 But before we jump into our fun Hundredth episode I just want to say and I think we said it every time but I'm so fucking sick of america like at this point I really am because we're not only banning books. It's 2023. We're banning books we have the Ceo of Tiktok. At congress right now fighting for us to be able to keep Tiktok in America and we've had another school shooting.

00:57.53 Ashley They're gonna keep it I wouldn't even blood it. You know I saw that that I just don't understand like what the fuck is the motive is there middle last game I don't we were talking about that. It worked it. Ah when um, like when it happened.

01:06.44 tduval18 But it doesn't even matter why Why do we still. Is in.

01:14.69 Ashley I Guess and it's like I don't know I don't I Just think it's done. It's.

01:17.72 tduval18 But even at this point like you're so worried this is what I'm so sick of hearing about we're worried about our kids. We don't want them to see drag queens we want to ban certain books that might be too much for them. We don't want our kids on Tiktok. They might see something but you don't give a fuck about a kid going into a school and potentially not coming home until we start taking gun violence serious I don't want to fucking hear about well Tiktok bad. These books are bad drag queens First of all drag queens are fucking. Great. But. You don't care about kids because if you did the first shooting we had here years ago would change it Melissa Joan Hart posted that she lived in Connecticut and they had moved to Tennessee. Where her kids were a school over from a school shooting that happened in Connecticut and that she and her husband were going to a parent teacher conference the day of the shooting and helped children cross the street from active shooter again at what point are we gonna start doing something about god.

02:21.22 Ashley With what they went there while the active shooter was there.

02:26.70 tduval18 They were going to their kids school which was like a block away from the active school shooter school and saw kids with their teachers crossing the street to get to the other school like to get out of their school and to another school so where they were safe.

02:40.26 Ashley That is insane.

02:44.36 tduval18 We've had so many shootings at this point where there there are people who are fighting from their traumatic event in a in a shooting and now having another one. There are kids that have lived through 2 school shootings.

02:57.57 Ashley At the same school that's awful. Oh fuck.

03:01.21 tduval18 Different schools if I remember correct I have to look it up but it was they survived a shoot a school shooting at it was either their elementary school or middle school and then there was a school shooting at their college same kids. So how much are we gonna keep saying we're worried about kids. We're worried about kids. We want our kids for our future. But we're not doing anything to stop people from being able to get assault rifles who needs a fucking assault rifle. No one does no one does when are we going to take gun violence serious because I don't want to hear about tiktoks poison in our minds I don't want to hear about certain books. First of all.

03:34.74 Ashley It's not. It's not tiktokck at all.

03:36.92 tduval18 It's not Tiktok. It's not books. It's not It's not these things. It's literally guns and we don't want to do anything about it and I hope all of the fucking congressmen and women who are wearing a k pins in Congress a few months back you go to every single family who's lost someone. You go look them in the eye and tell them why you're fighting to keep guns in the house and then tell me how important it is because you thought you did something with your little fucking a k pins. You really thought you did something then go to those families that have lost someone and then the people who are affected by it because even if we collectively weren't in a shooting we're affected by this. Daily seeing every single day. There's another shooting. It should not be like oh if this is just a Tuesday that is ridiculous to me.

04:26.73 Ashley It really is doesn't It's it's just crazy.

04:32.37 tduval18 I Really do want to look into us doing something on the podcast for people who have survived a shooting or like funding something that helps with like the trauma that then people like because you have to also think it's not only a family losing their kids but every single child that was there that trauma.

04:48.23 Ashley The other're never going to want to go back to school.

04:51.10 tduval18 Is gonna live with them. They're never gonna but where can they go. We've had shootings at concerts we've had shootings at churches. We've had shootings at the movies we've had shootings at grocery stores at Hospitals where can they go.

05:02.14 Ashley No I I under no I get that I totally get that. But I mean like they're not going to want to go back.

05:09.34 tduval18 Which is insane because you're supposed to be able to feel safe and comfortable and and learn school is you're supposed to learn like I don't even think which is crazy now that do you ever remember doing active shooter drills. We didn't We didn't do that.

05:21.97 Ashley I Remember I remember bomb girls like ah like do like a bomb threat I remember those we like went underneath of the windows. No I totally remember doing like I don't know if it was like a shooter but I remember doing that like we would.

05:27.27 tduval18 Yeah I remember the Bomb drills. Yeah.

05:39.84 Ashley Hide underneath the windows. Do you remember that when we didn't hide under the desk they told us not to it was always under a window or like under or under the door window to like split out of sight.

05:46.53 tduval18 I feel.

05:53.14 tduval18 But I don't I don't remember doing one. So maybe I like fucking block that out I remember doing once for severe weather but which was insane. Um, you remember this is a very big side note but remember when we had but really bad wind.

06:02.19 Ashley Yeah, that that that was what when.

06:07.37 tduval18 We had the really bad wind at summermers and we had to do like the actual drill because like it was wind like the wind was like they thought it was going to knock like a pole over into the school.

06:10.78 Ashley That was when they were telling us to like go under the fucking like if it was weather they're like go under your desk like the fuck is that going to do I mean I guess it's better than nothing. But.

06:18.39 tduval18 But so that but to that point like that's that's the drills we had and now every kid has an active shooter drill in their schools I don't know I need to ask my niece and nephew like what do they know and what to do for it.

06:30.92 Ashley Um, what do they do.

06:37.44 Ashley Owners are still the same.

06:38.20 tduval18 I know it involves like you. It's very similar from what I understand of like they close all the doors lock the window block the windows block the doors have them in a corner that's away from the door away from windows and and make them like hide into a bundle so they have to be very quiet and just think about that think about a 3 year old

06:54.53 Ashley Um, yes I remember that.

06:57.51 tduval18 Or a 4 year old having to be told like you need to be quiet. So like someone posts it a teacher posted that she gets her kids lollipops so that if there's when they're doing a drill. It keeps them quiet to protect them. That's fucking sad though. The fact that she had to think of that.

07:07.23 Ashley All that smart.

07:13.69 Ashley It is sad but I mean like she's trying to think of things to make make it better.

07:16.22 tduval18 I just. Protect them? Yeah but it's just it's so insane that that's that's their everyday life now like any kids now that's their everyday life is they have to know how to handle an active shooter anywhere.

07:29.91 Ashley They have to know how to exit the building for fire drill and then active shooter Fire Drill works right up my favorite.

07:36.70 tduval18 Which is crazy because like a fire drill. Yeah I They weren't someone put gum in my hair in a fire drill. Anyways.

07:44.35 Ashley Um, what was that an elementary school or when Dan that sounds like some shit that would happen to me. Not you. That's crazy. Were you able to get it out or did you have to cut it I feel like you just cut it.

07:47.86 tduval18 Is metal sore.

07:55.91 tduval18 Yeah, no Miss No Miss tally got it out.

08:00.92 Ashley Oh I straight up thought you would have been like fuck it I'm cutting it off.

08:05.36 tduval18 No I was upset because it was before I had cut my hair off so is when I had my look longer hair anyways. But that I'm just I'm upset about this I can't I just can't fathom that this is like really the reality every single day and like the more and more honestly you want to know my hot take on why they want to get rid of Tiktok. Because they don't want people seeing things that are outside the us because there's a lot of way better things like the Us is so set on this like oh they're stealing our data. First of all, you're all fucking steal our data you're all steal our fucking information like I I don't care at this point like what. You're gonna see how many fucking videos of Tom Holin and ze day I watched like Jesus shoot me sorry bad, an analogy but like really like I'm not worried about them seeing how many fucking videos I watch but what I think is interesting is. What I've learned through Tiktok especially about outside of this country There's things that are way better and we always are like America's so great other kind and then I see things and I'm like really. Not up to par and I feel like that's part of it. This might be a conspiracy theory but I feel like that's another reason why they want to get rid of it because they don't want us to be able to share that knowledge the more knowledge you have again? why banning books the more knowledge you have the more understanding you have of things and they don't want that.

09:20.10 Ashley Yeah to understand the point of doing that because there's always there's Youtube I mean I know it's not the same but like people are still go to make videos because the reals I mean I don't know Tiktok but like I know reals and on Instagram is like the same thing.

09:30.63 tduval18 Yeah, yeah.

09:38.51 tduval18 Yeah.

09:38.94 Ashley So like even if they got rid of Tiktok. They're still. They're not getting rid of it at all I don't think there. There's no way it's going to pass honestly, there's it's not going to pass like ticktokck's gonna be around but there's always a way around it.

09:50.89 tduval18 Ma'am I'm gonna say let's not say let's let's not say that there's no way it's not going to pass because everyone thought that when the corona coronavirus started it was. It's not going to come to the Us. It's not going to spread. It's not so at this point I believe anything I actually just watched a video on Tiktok shout out.

09:55.80 Ashley Hello.

10:07.83 tduval18 Where um, the Canada big brother I don't know if you've ever seen the show big brother before so it's like this show where there's people locked in a house and they have to like do different games and stuff and then they like vote each other out like each time each week.

10:10.82 Ashley No.

10:24.53 Ashley Many. Ah.

10:25.61 tduval18 But it's all like they don't they don't see anything that's going on in the outside world like it's a very like secluded type thing. Well I just saw a video of the people who in Canada's big brother who had went into the house and they started filming in it in February Twenty Eight Twenty Twenty and so typically like that. Hosts they don't tell them anything that's going on in the outside world unless it's like something really bad like if someone's the family member died or something like they'll tell them um and they set other one down and they're like so you guys don't know this is going on but the world is now on lockdown like had to explain to them everything that was going through covid and I was like it's so crazy.

10:54.24 Ashley Um.

10:59.18 Ashley I.

11:02.53 tduval18 To like see that and some days I'm like I don't always remember like what pre Pandemic life was like like.

11:09.84 Ashley I feel like we'll here I mean at least in Arizona I feel like things are already pretty back to normal Arizona never really believed in the pandemic and.

11:16.40 tduval18 Yeah, they things are back to normal Ish fair but it's just like I don't know about you but like someone sneezes I'm like side I like wrote like before I probably just like oh that sucks they have a cold now like.

11:32.74 Ashley I Never really I don't I think I just a more lenient and don't care but I get where you're coming from I get I get your point of view. What.

11:42.53 tduval18 You're just more oblivious you you're just more oblivious to the world like sometimes I you really are you sometimes you.

11:48.94 Ashley I am and I'm just I'm just in your garden and I don't want to know I don't want to know shit. But honestly the less you know the more you know like I don't go like I don't care about anything that's awful because there's some things I really should like.

12:02.12 tduval18 Like sometimes no but sometimes I'm like I don't know how you go through life and you're just like like someone could be get robbed and you'd be like you'd be like.

12:05.29 Ashley Ah, should watch the news or something.

12:10.62 Ashley Straight up. It's because. But you know what I guess it's like you know how like when you're in a you know how like when you're in a car accident and then like if you if you don't know you're less damn it or you're less hurt. So like if you're sleeping. You're not tensing up. You don't know so like you.

12:19.97 tduval18 That looks interesting but I'm just going to keep walking this way.

12:34.93 Ashley You get the least injured I feel like if I just don't know what's going on like I don't have to so like I'm just vibeing so like I'm just chilling I made that up.

12:37.00 tduval18 Yeah, that's that's over that was a really good analogy. That's actually a really good analogy for it. Yeah, you're you're just vibing with the the vibes good for you. That was a good vibe for it I can't live that way I wish I could um.

12:53.20 Ashley I talk about you all the time I talk about yes it but like we were um so we had just went to gas lamp in San Diego this past weekend for Susie's birthday and we were we we weren.

12:54.89 tduval18 But my lovely mental illness will make me fixate to find things really I Hope it's a good thing.

13:09.90 tduval18 Yeah, you looked hold on pause pause pause pause pause pause you looked fucking fire. Can I just tell you that like I'm going to have our producer post the picture from Ashley from this weekend because she looks suck the fucking bomb.com like you looked so fucking. Good.

13:11.64 Ashley Part.

13:25.75 Ashley Thank you I Never wear that I usually just worm like you know leg is in stuff but I appreciate you so we were in a parking garage and I don't know what the fuck I don't see like I don't even remember what happened.

13:27.65 tduval18 Anyways, Continue just have to shout you out there.

13:42.54 Ashley All I know was like there was this man and this woman they were arguing and I don't give a shit like that's their problem. That's not my problem and I think Lucy it was Susie's friend Lucy had said something about like paying attention or something. But getting kidnapped I don't know and I was like yo Dev Voda's always telling me I'm gonna get kidnapped because I don't pay attention to my surroundings and in a parking garage I feel like that's where you need to have be on highlight because I'm literally just writing my business.

14:08.44 tduval18 Because you don't like yes you need to be like on it like I am trying to get to my car get in and lock that bitch like I am not trying.

14:17.45 Ashley And I really I really? but now that now that I since I Well since I almost got kidnapped that one day at the gas station every time I get gas I straight up am like on high alert I'm like looking around looking around. Not like if I see them coming I can really do anything but at least I know that they're there.

14:46.70 tduval18 Yeah I I just I can't and you know what shout out to Donna Hart because she really did I think I've said this a million times but she really like she probably made me more paranoid than I need to be but in a good way. Because she really did always tell lacy and I like she was like you know someone will kidnap you like she didn't say because you know everyone always jokes arere like well they kidnap you'll bring you back like she was like no like they'll kidnap you like we were watching law and order and like seeing sex crimes yet like she was on top of it. So it really did ingrain in me and now thinking back to like.

15:08.92 Ashley Your mom was with that.

15:19.40 tduval18 Our teenage years even even in the times that I was like probably a little bit tipsy or something I was still very high alert to keep alert for you guys because not for nothing. We've talked about it before but our friend group I don't know why I don't have gray hairs by now because they just did not give a fuck like all of you. It's 1 thing when it's just you. Because I can be like Ashley all right stand next to me like what it but like it was like 20 of y'all that just were like move and I'm like what the fuck like do you not see that car over there that car looks suspicious like don't be walking by yourself over there and you guys just did not care I did not give a fuck.

15:51.30 Ashley But you know what I also didn't have I didn't have a Donna Hart so like I know nobody really had said anything about like oh you're gonna get kidnapped like when I was growing up. We we would straight up leave the house. We would go to sleep and all the doors were unlocked. We never especially the back door the back door that was like never locked never lever are locked and it was like really rare that because somebody was always home.

16:20.90 tduval18 Yeah.

16:21.90 Ashley But it was rare on an occasion where nobody was at home. But if there wasn't anybody home. The doors were never locked. So I think that's also like I never had.

16:30.70 tduval18 Jesus but I think that speaks I think it speaks to like if you don't mind sharing with like you lived with granny and granny and pop pop came from a time where you didn't have to lock your doors. Like you didn't like that just wasn't like a thing from their time period and like Donna Hart even though she did some crazy as shit sometimes she tells me stories and I'm like I don't know how you didn't get kidnapped but she also was in like the 70 s and eighty s where it started like.

16:46.54 Ashley Yeah.

17:03.62 tduval18 Kidnappings were happening more or people were just like you know shooting people so she like saw that and then instilled it in us to the 90 s but that kind of goes to it because like for granny and pop up. That's probably does like every day they like no one's coming to my house. we we nice we don't care.

17:16.89 Ashley That's true though. Yeah because I was like top peak back in like 70 s when that was shit like that was really like surfacing.

17:24.94 tduval18 Yeah, there's so many fucking serial killers from the 70 s and eighty s that like it's insane to me that anyone from that generation even survived because one these smallfuckers the sixty s and seventy s yall were just hitchhiking with any Tom Dick and Harry anyone.

17:39.76 Ashley Mean I picked to I we picked somebody up before not like you and I but for me dated him I shouldn't have said that.

17:42.73 tduval18 Granted I Hate I Hate you I don't need to know that? No no, no, no, don't do not tell me that because that will stress me out in it years later but like. Granted, we do do lift Now. So It's kind of similar to that which is interesting but no and did you won't know because that would be different you Well no, it would be different because you said someone was normally always home like I remember at point in time when we lived on one of the houses on middlesex.

18:07.17 Ashley Probably.

18:18.92 tduval18 And my mom had to work from 4 a m to four zero p m and like she would have a cab driver come pick me up and take me or your grandmother so I could go to school but she would be like very like she'd call me to be like that person's coming. This is their name but otherwise it was like don't leave the house and I remember I got in trouble one day. Because the fucking ice cream truck came and it was after school and I just I want to she either worked four a m to four p m or four p m to four a m so it was like um and most of the time I would say with my grandmother but sometimes I didn't so sorry Donna heart outing you for me saying by myself but I went outside the house because Amanda um.

18:37.42 Ashley Oh.

18:55.57 tduval18 Amanda H came by and then we were like talking on my porch which I shouldn't even have been on my porch but the ice cream truck went by and so we walked up to the ice cream truck and my neighbor ran at me out and my mom was like you went out of the fucking house and I've now noticed I think and people talk about this I've seen people talk about it before.

19:07.83 Ashley Um, and.

19:13.82 tduval18 That because of me having that where I was by myself and it was like don't answer the door for anyone I don't answer my door like I innately will not answer my door earlier there I guess they were like church people. There was like a group of 20 of them walking through the neighborhood knocking people door.

19:27.25 Ashley Oh he No I didn't have the door for that either.

19:31.38 tduval18 And I saw like I heard my doorbell go off and I saw and I was like absolutely the fuck not I'm not answering it but like I won't answer it for anything like if someone knocks on the door. Even if we're expecting someone I literally will be like Jake go answer the door like I don't like to answer the door unless it's like you coming over or some ship but you have a key. But like you know what? I'm saying.

19:52.45 Ashley No yeah, that makes I but you know what I think it really just depends on the time because Aunt Susan would leave scott home alone a lot not like for a long period of time but it was just like I just feel like it was more.

20:04.39 tduval18 Um, yeah.

20:12.36 Ashley Of a norm to like leave children at home alone then because yeah, because now so I know somebody who knows somebody their daughter is I think like 15

20:14.62 tduval18 Well, it also wasn't as dangerous.

20:31.76 Ashley And they wanted to do something or whatever but the person ended up not wanting to do it because they didn't want to leave the kid alone for a couple hours which I thought was weird and I told that person that I thought it was weird.

20:47.22 tduval18 Well, that's because we were ripping and running the fucking streets at 15

20:50.66 Ashley And like exactly but it's like I'm like you're 15 you have a phone like you're I don't know to me I just thought I mean every parenting every parent does different things. Whatever I was just like you know. The kid is 15 like you're just going out for a couple hours like I really and it was um like I totally think they they would be fine, but.

21:13.73 tduval18 I mean I do think at some point like teenagers will be safer. But I think it's also a very different time like.

21:21.83 Ashley Oh no, yeah, it definitely is because it was more normal like oh I'm just going to leave my fucking thirteen year old at home.

21:28.69 tduval18 Well that that's what I was saying like James is 13 today I can't believe it oh my god but I couldn't imagine honestly leaving him home by himself but like at 13 I was babysitting lacy's friend son and home by myself.

21:38.69 Ashley So.

21:47.72 tduval18 Babies him.

21:47.75 Ashley Bitch that was another thing that is crazy I so last time I went home. So my cousin Sam I still don't know how the fuck old she I think she's ah Kevin age 33 so ah she's only well she's only like a couple years older than me why the fuck was she babysitting me like you can.

21:56.20 tduval18 she's yeah she's 34 I think

22:06.19 tduval18 Um.

22:06.49 Ashley You can probably run a little bit faster than I can but it's like that was the thing like oh yeah, you're 13 Okay, you can babysit your fucking 9 year old niece.

22:15.81 tduval18 Well like lacy lacy fucking what I we're gonna you use the term loosely of watched me but she was 16 I was eight so I I was older but she watched me and she took me to parties and just locked me in a room to play barbies like but it I was safe.

22:32.17 Ashley Hey she gave you a toy you were till.

22:34.89 tduval18 Like she she gave me it well and this is the thing like at now me as like a grown adult I would never but she gave me something to do put me in a room and like her friend and you remember him champ always felt bad for me so he would like come and check on me and stuff. Ah, but it was okay for that like that was okay now I'm like if James I would not leave James watching the girls like there's no fucking way in how they would burn down the house like I just know it I love them. But it would It's just a different generation and I think as much as people talk about.

22:53.49 Ashley Um, and.

23:12.61 tduval18 How kids are getting too much information now sometimes I still also think they're very sheltered compared to what we were in this sense of the world.

23:17.97 Ashley I Also I saw yeah because like it's everybody especially children are so technology technology is just like overpowering I think it was like more of a joke video but it kind of made sense. So. The video was these 3 kids outside like on their lawn and they're just like standing there like spinning around like they looked like they didn't know what to do and then the voice over was like these kids are finally outside and they don't even know how to play outside and I'm like.

23:52.99 tduval18 But it's true.

23:55.99 Ashley And like that makes sense because like they're always inside. They're always on their phones playing video games like Ipads is the thing. It's like maybe they come on the outside.

24:04.21 tduval18 But it and it's it's true. It's even if they are outside. It's not safe like even in your front yard like you have to have an adult watching like I know um my friend's daughter she was playing with the neighborhood kid and like we. 1 of us was like at the door and like watching them and we saw her parents were watching them and I was just like that's so crazy because I remember I could just go out like I'd be out in the fucking yard for hours. Donald Dar was not be that did not give a shit. She was like oh you're playing on your swing. You're doing that like she obviously I know my mom she was probably like peeking through the windows and stuff more than I think.

24:29.34 Ashley No I wouldn't do and then.

24:41.15 tduval18 But like I still had that freedom.

24:42.62 Ashley Yeah, and like you go out and you just had to be home by the streetlights like when they would come 1

24:50.73 tduval18 It's just it's such a crazy thing to think about and then I really it really does trip me out when I'm thinking about like James and Leila and Olivia of like their world's just so different than ours like there's so many things that are just so crazy to me that they don't know we talked about. Last week and I'm still going on a fucking big thing about this is the fact that they're not teaching cursive no more and I saw you know and someone said this and honestly it was the funniest thing I fucking heard but it is so true she was like.

25:09.93 Ashley Yeah, let's do something stupid.

25:19.51 tduval18 I'm not worried about them not being able to sign cursive for documents who's going to write happy birthday on our cakes and I was like she not wrong who is right and happy birthday on our case because if I try it's going look a mess Actually I take it back.

25:23.93 Ashley Laugh my ass off.

25:30.25 Ashley No, it's about technology like all you got to do is put the cake and then it just like writes it out.

25:36.54 tduval18 But I got a friend who used to work in the bakery I got 2 friends actually who worked at the bakery so I can always have someone I got someone but it's just crazy like I don't know the like the older I get I realize things that people who are older and adults. Used to say to me of like things change and it's crazy to see like in my day it was something but it really is like in my day it was something different.

26:01.40 Ashley Yeah, like I was telling Jackie because she has a lot of friends that have kids and they were talking about like I don't know school and so where I lived and you too like it was in the middle of elementary middle and high school.

26:08.26 tduval18 Same.

26:18.61 tduval18 Yeah, we were right there? yeah.

26:20.52 Ashley So I was always I never had to take the bus I always I always had like I could walk but I remember telling her I was like I started so for my house to elementary school is probably like maybe like what a 10 minute walk maybe maybe less

26:31.22 tduval18 Um, yeah, yeah, and you're short. So yeah, mine was mine was even crazier in that. My.

26:34.74 Ashley And when I I started walking by myself when I was in second grade I remember the first day I got to like walk to and from school by myself I thought I was that bitch and she's like are you serious and I'm like yeah like.

26:50.19 tduval18 Middlesex was a street over for my house like it was a street over and my mom still walked me to school up until I think third or fourth grade Third because I remember I went to go by myself but they could see me like.

26:52.91 Ashley Um, relaxed. Yeah.

27:05.13 tduval18 1 my grandmother could stand on the street watch me go down the street and then my mom could go to our backyard and see me come up the thing for school like they really could see me but I remember even when I started middle school like walking to middle school I thought I was like kink shit and James gets dropped off in a granted his school is not in walking distance. it's it's not

27:18.51 Ashley Dude I did 2

27:24.50 tduval18 But like my boy gets dropped off and it's still like it's early I don't want to go walk over there until it's like right on time and I'm like boy if you don't get out the damn car because I was walking I had a little nokia so I could text Donna Hart and say here and that's barely all it could type out. But it's just it's so crazy I don't know it's wild like when you really I am mean you have talked about this a few times of like that and like I'm correlating it to something wild but like how people's relationships work so differently. It's just so crazy when you really think about it. You didn't.

27:57.42 Ashley And I didn't even have a cell phone I didn't get my grade that I wasn't ah I couldn't have a cell phone until I could afford it so I didn't get a cell phone until I was inwelfth grade. No, it's not but like texting like oh I'm here I'm at school or.

28:06.68 tduval18 Um, honestly though I think that's not terrible. No.

28:12.27 tduval18 Yeah, for safety like on it if I had a kid today I probably would get them like a little just fucking nokia typephon like I don't think you need to have a cell phone like I you need something to tell me you're here and there but that's it someone had posted it.

28:15.90 Ashley Texting them like I never had that.

28:32.11 tduval18 Um, ah I think it was a real where the lady said that their house has an iphone but it's 1 iphone. That's for the family. So like if their daughter goes it. It replaced the house phone in a sense The only difference is it can go with her so like if their daughter goes out and I think she was like 14 she takes that phone. They can communicate. But then when she's home. It's there so it like replace the house room which is also something I kids don't realize like a house phone like that's so crazy to me of like I don't even.

28:56.59 Ashley I Saw that video of that lady did you see like I wish there was just one phone that was just in the house had a chord so that you wouldn't lose it and everybody's making fun of her like bitch that is a landline.

29:11.28 tduval18 Like we had those we they're still available in some things but it's just so crazy I don't know it. It is a really strange.

29:18.79 Ashley I Know every generation says this I So I am a firm believer though that our generation was the best because like because like things were like so like slowly like.

29:26.30 tduval18 90 s babies. Yeah.

29:32.60 Ashley You know, getting more advanced but it wasn't like too advanced just yet but like still like cool things were happening and.

29:37.50 tduval18 Well yeah, because it wasn't like now there's always something new right? New Youtube new tik to new this new it like we we had my space and that wasn't like Editor. Yeah, like that was in our middle school wears.

29:46.44 Ashley Yeah, and that was and that was true and it wasn't but it wasn't like we wouldn't go out and it wouldn't take over our life like we wouldn't be like 1 like out on our phones which I'm sure if we had a phone we would but it was nice to be like.

29:58.21 tduval18 An ouch.

30:04.68 Ashley That was just a at home thing or at a or at a library like it wasn't It wasn't on I never did that I know you're talking about I was not my vibe.

30:09.57 tduval18 Ah I played that game do I I don't know if you ever played it. But Jessica and I played it where you could just dress up different celebrities I spent so much fucking time doing that damn game like. I played brats they don't have brats these days. Well they do but like not a way we not the way we did of like yo I used to love the fuck out of my brats like the fact that they had those chunky feet but they bull him it yes.

30:30.46 Ashley Um, yeah, they do.

30:37.12 Ashley Is not the ones where you would just like pop like literally pop their feet off and put okay.

30:43.86 tduval18 And they had the big Ss Heads I Loved my brats like I thought I was the King shit with brats and like we played jump brobe and like learning how to ride a bike took me a while but I got there Um, fucking pogo six scooters get your fucking ankle.

30:58.55 Ashley Oh no, no oh my god a razer I had a scooter or bike I had like a little like Huffy bike. Just.

31:03.20 tduval18 Busted the fuck up on your scooter.

31:10.33 tduval18 But that's just like it. It's it is it is crazy. But I do think the 90 s babies like we we had. We had it the best we have a lot of anxiety. Ah we have a lot of anxiety.

31:14.27 Ashley No I Totally agree like there was no social media other than myspace but like phones were not taking over our life like we could. We actually would go outside and hang out with each other.

31:27.66 tduval18 But don't get me wrong and don't get us wrong here. We absolutely love when Ashley comes here and flies across the country or I fly across country to her and we sit with the Tv on on our phones in the same room drinking a drink. It's the best time ever and someday.

31:39.11 Ashley Hey we're we're 30 We've lived that life of not having phones like we can chill.

31:46.73 tduval18 I really just don't want my phone that's like Rachel asked me earlier. She's like why is your sits your shit saying deliver quietly and I was like oh bitch my phone's in focus all the time like it's legitimately focus just that it's so focus is similar to do not disturb a so.

31:53.63 Ashley I Don't even know focus means I always put it in either I put it in do not disturb or not.

32:05.47 tduval18 So it's pretty much a different do not disturb minds in focus all the time. Um, but I have it set to where there's only 3 people that's messages come through like everyone else is it'll just be delivered quietly and I won't see it until I open my phone but like yours jakes and Rachel so.

32:16.57 Ashley Um, so.

32:23.70 tduval18 Come through and actually like alert me.

32:26.37 Ashley Let me see what the difference is I will do control notifications Honestly, ah they really are like the same thing.

32:36.46 tduval18 It's the same thing but I leave I now leave my phone in that all the time and it's so fucking. Funny how when we all originally got our cell phones and shit we were like. When you see what cool ringtone I can make and a ring back and make sure that my ringtone and my text tone are different now I'm like I don't even want to get if like my phone is not on silent I'm like what the fuck is happening like why.

32:54.21 Ashley My phone is always on silent unless I'm like at work like overnight. So like I could hear my phone like if somebody like the doctor whatever calls me but like literally if it's not work related I don't have my phone on like that shit is 1 silent.

33:08.40 tduval18 Yeah, same speaking of work because that's I keep my work phone is like when I'm on call it's on but otherwise not I am two days away from my last day and my team sent me this e card with like.

33:20.90 Ashley Wow.

33:25.95 tduval18 Instead of writing a card because obviously we're virtual they did a e card and I'm not going to lie have me tear up I was like it just it meant so much and just everyone like I've tried to be doing well with we've talked about this before I don't do well with compliments I always deflect like someone be like oh. Your dress was so pretty at Ashley's wedding and I'll be like well Ashley stress like like I will deflect it to like anything. Um, but I've been trying to take it in and it has really been so gratifying to know that like I when I set out to be a manager I wanted to be a leader who was. Not only kind but firm but also could work with you and be open and have that like open dialogue. It's just a manager that everyone will want like someone who's like okay, cool I get that you have stuff going on. Let's see what we can do to work that out but also still firm on you like this is your job and almost every one of my employees has told me that in the past week of how like. I was one of the best managers they've ever had and it it really hit me I was like it. It really hit me that I was like wow like ah um, eleven months

34:21.44 Ashley Oh damn, how long how long were you doing that Wow and look at you later like you are my favorite. You made a change.

34:34.57 tduval18 Yeah, it hit me. It really didn't hit me I was like who I was like I'm Goingnna cry and they're taking me out for a team dinner on Saturday night and I was like I'm going to fucking cry I know I'm going to cry.

34:39.61 Ashley Oh.

34:44.14 Ashley You it get a drink chill have some good food.

34:51.46 tduval18 You you know how I'm always Goingnna give food. That's another actually we're not goingnna do we were okay so we were gonna talk. We said it a few weeks ago we werere gonna do a bonus episode on the um Malaysia flight we're going to still do that. But we're not going to talk about today. We were going to that. Reminds me of something I just saw today where they were talking about how like western societies and colonialism is who came up with the three meals a day of like you should have breakfast lunch at dinner because well.

35:23.58 Ashley I Never even thought about who invented that or who made that a thing until just now.

35:30.52 tduval18 So the background it is like when they came over to different civilizations civilizations they had seen that those civilizations would just kind of eat when they're hungry and they're like oh you're savages like you need to have structure. But if you think about it. Kids do it. We program kids into doing.

35:38.19 Ashley I am savage.

35:47.12 tduval18 Like breakfast lunch and dinner but kids will just eat when they're hungry and then stop eating when they're full and that has changed the way that I'm starting to think about like my how I eat because I think I have a very bad structure of feeling like I have to eat these 3 meals a day. But then I get hungry in between and it's so bad if I'm hungry in between because I should be fulfilled with my like 3 meals a day but now I did it. But I think I'm kind of structuring myself now of that of like if I'm hungry I'm going to eat I'm not going to be like well this has to be breakfast time. This has.

36:05.59 Ashley No, because then you get your snag. You never had snack me or a little like I'll go a snack.

36:20.41 tduval18 Be dinner. Granted I just made these fucking spicy Panini Spicy Italian Paninis I'm not thrill with them because like something just didn't it didn't hit the Italian piece that I wanted. So um, ah again, but I just had saw that I was like you know what I never thought about that is that it's like why do we have to make it while while I'm hungry.

36:27.41 Ashley Earth.

36:38.87 tduval18 But you know breakfast is normally around this time or I'll have to wait until lunch like no I'm going to fucking eat something.

36:47.30 Ashley I think I threw all that out the window once I started working at night.

36:53.77 tduval18 Astro that's that's true but I also I'm not restricting.

36:55.64 Ashley I don't I don't think that I but I don't think breakfast lunch and dinner I think that's good to me I get where you're coming from. But I think you know this is like I I should eat like it's breakfast like let me eat breakfast and it's like okay, it's lunchtime. Let's eat. And then dinner and then having snacks I I like I mean I guess like he says just the way I'm programmed I like having that like if if I have to think about it like it just makes sense.

37:20.90 tduval18 I'm trying to be I'm trying to be more active of like eating when I'm hungry and I'm also not being restrictive anymore either like because what I've noticed as I and I think you talked about it when you did that program through your Gym. Of if I restrict were like let's say I'm like I'm not having wine which I really do want a nice glass of wine I might get a glass of wine at dinner tomorrow. Um shut the fuck up. No, you didn't um.

37:46.35 Ashley Bitch I got a bottle of prosecco at Costco for $8 I got 2 bottles. Yes, the fuck I did Jackie's the one that solid it I'll send you a picture I've never had this brand is Costco but Costco. Rebottles brand named alcohol I don't know if you knew that.

38:00.17 tduval18 Are you make I didn't but are you making no gronies spagliato with persecco on it.

38:04.81 Ashley Yeah, actually ever since you left a bitch I be making those all the time.

38:10.31 tduval18 I haven't had 1 in a minute and I kind of low key. Want to go walk over to the liquor store and get the little mini persecco look. We had him make one tonight.

38:15.77 Ashley And it's crazy because that like capri campre yo that shit I just finished it it that should last a long time like it's expensive but like it really does last and I I be drink I'd throw them back.

38:21.45 tduval18 Because it lasts because you don't use a lot it.

38:30.60 tduval18 Girl I tried the other day to just make like because I saw that some people just drink that street the capri. No I can't It's so far better I was like I can't I'm a bitch but I do love a good and the girl that is.

38:39.97 Ashley It's bitter I could see people written be remove I saw by itself.

38:49.71 tduval18 Again, you can't take Tiktok for me because that's one of the greatest things that has come out of Tiktok is watching yup.

38:51.16 Ashley Know this shit's being in and I saw the difference between the dark neroni or not the dark neni the what is that shit vermouth and then the clear vermouth like there's I didn't know there's different. 1 ne's like sweeter. 1 ne's drier

39:01.87 tduval18 Ah, yes, yeah I want't get the sweeter one I have the dryer one still but I want to get the sweeter one because I was curious if I that would change it because I remember your face bitch I remember your face when I had you try it. The first time you were like and then you had a you.

39:10.50 Ashley I done I live a fooder one Better. It was bitter because it I because you just put a little bit of the per second it like I needed a little bit more but literally so for me I Just don't like bitter shit I like so I'm a sweet girl. So but switching it over to the sweet vermus makes a difference and it's my favorite I drink it a lot straight up. But anyway sorry I just interrupted you about your wine.

39:33.90 tduval18 I change the game change the game I do like that you know what's crazy I don't know if you um oh oh yeah, I was like what was I fucking talking about um I don't restrict myself from it. So like if I'm like man I'm really want some cinnamon bites which by the way. Shout out to seasons pizza for those fucking cinnamon bites because the bitches are so good. But if I want them if I want them instead of being like I'm not going to get them I'm just gonna get it because I'll probably eat a few and be good versus.

39:53.66 Ashley They straight up do appreciate though.

40:05.88 tduval18 If I sit here and think about it and I'm like well I'm not going to have it I'm not going to have it I'm not gonna have I'm going to like if I sit here and I'm like I'm not going to have pizza I'm not Goingnna have pizza and then I get a pizza I'm gonna eat the whole fucking pizza in that sitting because I restricted myself from it versus let me just make some and I'll eat it now and then i' I can have it for tomorrow or not.

40:20.17 Ashley That is real like I and like like how you said with what I did at the gym like it really did help a lot like with your cravings like if you want to just eat it but like eat a little bit like don't like if I wanted a burrito I'm not going to eat 12 burritos like.

40:23.58 tduval18 Was.

40:38.16 Ashley Maybe eat half or eat the whole thing but after I eat it I'm I'm chill my craving has been fulfilled and and I don't think about it anymore and I can go back to my normal eating habits because fucking up not really fucking up because she also said like no food is bad food but like.

40:44.53 tduval18 Um, met that.

40:54.15 tduval18 Um, right exactly and I think I think we put very hard negative emotions and someone else I had seen said that they were like food is not positive or negative. It's food like you don't need to put a negative like.

40:56.95 Ashley But eating that is not going to like ruin my whole diet like just go back.

41:13.60 tduval18 If I want a fucking double stuffed oreo I'm Goingnna get a double stuffed oreo speaking of though not double stuffed oreos but when you get a burrito bowl from Chipotle. Do you eat the whole bowl or not because I do I fucking do I saw purple.

41:21.85 Ashley Yes, of course I do never have I ever unless the only time I will ever save food and I said this right before we ate like we went to gas lamp. What.

41:31.72 tduval18 Hold up I see Jake pulling in I'm gonna tell him real quick to drive to the liquor store and get me that oh god oh god I hope he answers I hope he answers.

41:43.80 Ashley Well, the while you do that I always finish my food when we're out eat no matter what the only time I won't finish it is if if I'm going to be drinking and I'm like oh when I'm drunk. I know I'm going to want to eat so I should save half of this for later if it wasn't for that or yeah, if I didn't have a reason to want to save it but I'm eating the whole thing. There is no hold to me back even if I'm full like if if I know I can't eat it I like I Really do try to eat the whole. The whole like the whole plate.

42:22.58 tduval18 He's he said a bottle of what so upset into a.

42:28.32 Ashley What did you ask for a bottle of what honestly I've never heard of Prosecco until you mentioned it so I can see his quick name.

42:32.38 tduval18 Prosecco I Know that's why I was like I need to send him a picture um of it. But now that's how I I Legitimately I always. Eat my bowl and I felt offended because I saw some bitch post something where she's like finish my bowl saving it for tomorrow and someone else comment and they were like y'all don't eat your hobo because like I'm scraping the I'm scraping the fucking thing to be like.

43:03.93 Ashley Um, and now eat the whole thing.

43:08.72 tduval18 Make sure I get all the extra nice stuff together. Yeah I'm I'm glad you're that.

43:08.86 Ashley Yeah I I am a clean plate I'm part of the clean plate club like I said if unless I'm drinking and I'm going to want I know I'm going to want it for later because like if I could go out drinking and we come back. It's late. There's really.

43:21.36 tduval18 Um, yeah.

43:27.00 Ashley Not a whole lot of options like there are but it's like that's the only occasion where I won't eat the whole thing.

43:30.26 tduval18 Yo tell me how much it fucking hits when you get something and you don't finish it when you're drinking and you save it for later and then you like either get home and you're still drunk or you like fall asleep but then wake up and you're still tipsy like middle of the night wake up and fucking eat it because I will never forget.

43:47.43 Ashley I Think you cut out or my it's definitely my end because I can hear you.

43:49.69 tduval18 When we went out for Shannon and Luke's birthday a few years ago we got food at this restaurant. It was so good but like can you hear me now. Ashley.

44:05.75 Ashley Also it's really really windy here. So it's probably fucking on my internet service.

44:06.40 tduval18 All Can you hear me now. Hello Hello Can you hear me now.

44:20.92 tduval18 Hello. Yes.

44:21.73 Ashley No, can you hear me? Damn I Really can't hear you. It's like completely blank.

44:31.12 tduval18 Oh man.

44:36.54 Ashley Why does a shit Always do this right? at the end.

44:40.91 tduval18 Yeah, well, we're gonna wrap this episode. Um and we'll be back next week my