00:00.00 tduval18 Okay, so we really were just having some technical difficulties I did not hit play so we just went through the last of the list I'm not going to repeat it because it sounds stupid to repeat it home. We know my internet went out so now if I sound weird that's because Jovoda has me on speaker. Her phone because my internet sucks hey we're innovative we are innov innovated innovated here. We can figure shit out um in the innemone and them in the minute in a minute. Um, but we were really just talking about like we don't know a lot of the other artist in the grammys which is. So crazy to me because I feel like I'm pretty like well versed but there is a lot of people I don't know who they are like that's Stephen lacy dude he got with a lot of awards and I don't know who he is 1 bit. Okay I wanted to see a bad butd. He didn't one at least 1 for me yo babin is good as shit he is. He is really good like I don't know I billly is and I wish I knew the. Like the language because by jib plays his shit all the time when we're doing our workouts and like he has some bopps and okay so one night when he released his album like his new album. My coworker is obsessed with him like he fucking loves bed bunny and. Um, he played 1 of his songs like on Youtube but had like the english subtitles and dude my men have he's it's some lyrics like he he really does have some good songs I just I don't I don't know that yeah I don't know what enough.

01:35.28 tduval18 But I think what we were talking about while we were not actually talking is like how pissed off too we were for Harry of like the people that were heckling him in. You know it's just like why everyone someone else's good time like that's really like don't be yelling in the audience like that like if you have your thoughts and opinions fine like you won't be once anyone? whatever. But. Dude like don't yell like don't ruin his moment like shut the fuck up. That's right, you know and then it's funny because like my cousin has now started seeing like videos of him and like all his concerts. She's like I didn't know he was so funny and like he's a really good like. I want to see him live like I really really do want to see him live and since he's been touring for the last two fucking years. Basically my man has to be exhausted. But since he's been sworn and that's another thing that people were talking shit about his performance at the grammys but then come to find out and his dancers talked about it. So if you guys haven't seen it. His performance was on a turntable so it was like going in a direction and they had this whole choreograph like cool thing to make shapes when the grammy started and when the whole performance started. The turntable was actually going in the opposite way. So everything that they choreographed because you have to think like you're. You're doing it a certain direction. Everything was off and you can see and like I've watched a lot of videos of his concerts. You could see and hear his panic and his voice when you listen back to it like you could tell he was very nervous and that's also really unsafe for him and the dancers and the fact that they were able to still pull off a really beautiful performance.

03:02.56 tduval18 Gives to their artistry and that they are artists and they were able to come back from that you know if you always have something to say like Jesus Christ and also just that would be so scary I'm not going to lie like if I started rotating I would be terrified. Right? and especially like even being a dance. So like you choreographed or you learned this whole dance and then come to find out. It's the other way and you're like you're also piano game because you don't want to do a bed job and look stupid. So like I'm sure that whole thing was just everybody freaking out internally. And then our last thing of the Grammys I feel like is um Sam Smith and Kim Petra she is the first ever transgender woman to win a grammy and they performed so Sam Smith and Kim Petra performed unholy and there's so many people out on the internet talking about how they were worshiping the devil for this performance and it just made me so mad because I'm like dude they were not. It was just like grow up grow up. Oh. It's just a performance like why? why? Why? like. And I feel like I'm not going to like I'm trying to not be like an asshole but I also feel like if that was just some white man and not someone who is nonb binary and a transgender woman they wouldn't have been talking as much shit of saying that.

04:33.23 tduval18 Like they would have just been like oh it's fine and so that also pissed me off too. Yeah.

04:44.82 tduval18 But after talking about grammy moving on um, black panther waconda forever is on Disney plus I cried I rewat shit. It's like a 3 hour movie and I could definitely send you watch it. Um shit nowadays they really are and I cried. And they said that they just released the behind the scenes. So like you're seeing the cast when they were dealing with like losing Chadwick and everything and I don't know if I'm ready to watch that because I feel like I will fucking ball I love behind the scenes stuff even ah, even more so with music videos I love that when they did the behind the scenes. So yeah, it is just a It's a good time like. Because you get to see the creative process I think that's something that I thoroughly enjoy is and we talked about this with Pat last week and we've talked about it is that process to me is so fascinating and just to see I think I've probably said it a hundred times like Taylor did a thing where you could see behind the scenes of how they came up with like a song and just watching her and Jack bounce ideas off of each other. Or her 1 song. It's literally they took her voice and mastered it and made it into the beat because she had woken up in the middle of the night and she was like I want to hear like a beat that's like right that that that da and so she was making that and then they took it slowed down and created it and made it into a beat in the back of her song and that's fucking genius I could never. Like anytime I think I'm smart and then I watch something where like these artists and I'm like absolutely the fuck not I love the behind the scenes stuff. It's so fun. Um, speaking of fun social media I went through and deleted a lot of people and I kind of want to give this psa to everyone.

06:18.77 tduval18 You do not have to follow anyone that makes you feel like shit like if you are following someone and you're feeling like envious or shitty and there's ah, there's a limit to envious right? Like if you follow someone you're like wow. It's so cool that they do this but like you're not sitting there like wow I suck because I can't do this There's a difference. But I really just went through and deleted anyone that I'm like the one if you're not my actual friend in real life I'm deleting you off of social media. You don't need to have my social media fuck off. But also anyone who if I would watch their stuff and feel like shitty about myself because of watching their stuff and that has nothing to do with them. That's a me problem. But I remove them because you can curate your social media to you and it should make you feel good if you're going to utilize social media. It should not be in a way where you're feeling shitty and negative because there's already so much negative shit in the world. Yeah, and like how we were talking about yesterday I when I was talking with my coworker because I had. Brought it up like a couple weeks ago about thinking about deleting either like just deleting my Instagram but keeping my snapchat just because I don't know sometimes it just gets you depressed and like you're looking at certain things and then like it just puts you in a bad mood and you just and then you just hate everything and. And she agreed there's like she also said that she deleted her Instagram to I think for a short short while that and she re reactivated it and I was like you know what? I think I want to do that and I say because it just happens randomly like and you.

07:47.78 tduval18 I'll be watching reels or something and then some pops up and it's like damn I know and I think to that point too is and I had told you this 1 thing I did because I deactivated mine a few months back and then I came back but I removed it from my main home screen. So. It's not right there and I'm not. First selecting on it and then other thing that I had done and I really suggest everyone doing is I take off the notifications any social meet besides snapchat um, any social media that I have which I'm actively I have so many I just have Tiktok in that. Um and Instagram but I made it where I don't get notifications. So I'm not like. Getting that ding and then being like oh let me go check in there and look through it like I don't have notifications to it and it's not on my mains screen. So I'm not like automatically, it's not the first thing I pull up. Um I just think it's important like this world is shitty our weathers crazy. It's probably gonna end soon. They keep fucking with shit in different places. Opening up tombs and fucking pyramids and shit like we're probably not going to make it do and in the time that I'm here I want to have a good time. Um and not be so affected by social media and I think it's just so negative in the world that it really is it used to be like a good time now. It's just. Toxic and I don't think we said it last week because we had our episode with Pat but it's also black history month. So like if you know someone who's black first of all treat them like a fucking king or Queen because they deserve it but to like learn about black history month me and Ashley have said this multiple times for um, a lot of things actually of like we need to learn so much more about our histories because.

09:21.26 tduval18 They are no offense actually because I know you're white. They're trying to whitewash history to it not be the actual hardships that it was and a lot of these things especially for slavery because I love when people are like it was four hundred years ago get over it. Okay yes, slavery may have been four hundred years ago but up until not even sixty years ago my husband and I wouldn't been able to get married That's the time my mom has been alive like yeah that is really insane to think about like that wasn't even that long ago now and there's still places that have like sundowntowns and I think they're just getting them abolished and so when you really put that in perspective like it's not an old thing. It's still happening. There's still black people dying every day because. Ah, cop sees them and thinks that they're dangerous, but the same white person could walk by and they're fine and like that goes for a lot of things but like during black history month, especially like utilize that time in this month to really learn about it because what you're taught in school is not what you fucking learn at all and it's true way worse. Way worse than people ever think about so stop telling people and also stop telling people I mean as we just said for beyonce fans to get over it. But I think there's that's 2 different things like your music but like stop also telling people that they can't think of something as harmful. It can be harmful and everyone should have be able to have an opinion unless you're fucking racist and sexist and stuff. Then I don't care about your opinion. Um, but I'll just decide for real like everyone can have an opinion and it does have to be the same as yours but don't be such an asshole that you won't listen to someone else's opinion and see and understand that there's a reason they feel that way because that's something I you know, especially now being a manager.

10:56.13 tduval18 Might not always agree with something my staff says but I don't put them down I walk it through with them listen to them and then explain like well here's my perspective and why I don't think that this is what you're seeing it at. But if you do feel that this is something that like is really hurting and upsetting to you. Let's set up a meeting and you and that person walk through it or you know. Everyone comes from a different perspective in their life something that would bother me might not bother you a lot of things actually that bother me to not bother you because I feel like I need to start living my life like you and this is a good thing. No dude I really do I think this about you that I think is really It's a really good thing and I'm trying to give people their flowers and it is you really do take people as they are like you take them and like you typically do not think somewhat like if someone tells you something you're believing them. And I know you're like oh I'm gullible. But no, you just you don't necessarily always think someone has like bad intentions with it. You're gonna believe them whereas I always am like what did that mean Jack he's like that too I just do like I always am like. Did they mean that true. Yeah and I always kind of laugh and Rachel and I have talked about it with you is. We're like Ashley will just take people as they are and that that's not a bad thing. Jake's the same way where if someone's like yeah I went out and did this that day and I got like $3000 jakes like that's cool and I'm like.

12:25.96 tduval18 How'd you get that $3000 like what what happened beforehand who gave it to like I'm always questioning it and it's a good thing that I question but sometimes I'm like I should just take whatever someone says and fucking I don't need to investigate like the truth will come out if you're lying. Right? Or either that or like it depends on what the situation is like if I'm talking to somebody and sometimes I won't ask questions like maybe I just don't care I'm like yeah that's sick. Well no because there's a lot of things that I really and this is go sound like an asshole I don't care about but my the way my mind works and this is why lexa pro is great because it helps me not do this is I feel like I have to know like I have to figure it out and it comes in handy. For example, anytime we need to put furnitureur together. I have to know how to fucking do it so I can get it done and then not have to worry about it anymore. But when it comes to people like nine nine percent of the time I really don't care but because you told me this little piece now I'm gonna be like well why did that person say that to them are they doing something bad. Why did they do something bad like I'm gonna go on it and. And I'm trying to get better at being like if it's not my fucking problem and it doesn't directly affect me in that way. I don't care like I will walk you through it as your friend but like I'm not going to invest time in it because it's just not good like that's a you problem none of me problem right? and also just taking people as they are in general.

13:53.86 tduval18 I think is important because I have a bad habit of wanting to believe the best in people at times and I'm like no, you've shown me who you are like you're an asshole I don't need to keep trying like I don't need to try to find like a good thing that you've done. That's just who you are like you might be a good person but you're not a good person in my life. Actually I think that's a good one for you too. Yeah because you really do be letting people. This is why every every best friend group is the person who's like yeah, it's so. K and then their best friend coming in like no bitch. It's not like that's you and me you'll be like yeah no guys hell are you and I like straight up, you'll just be like it was fine I'm like was it fine. Do you really think it was fine. You want me to say something I'll say something every time. But you cut me down because sometimes I'm like maybe it isn't that deep like maybe it's not that to unless you're drunk then you are a fighting girl you you're one of the fighting girlies when you're drunk lady girly fighty curly. You really do crack me up when you're drunk. You're like let's go and I'm like oh I'm not matching your energy this time I I didn't want that to happen like I'm just trying to vibrate I'm just living life. Um, but anything else that you wanted to bring to this week's episodes.

15:20.71 tduval18 First off I met Craig Owens yes so amazing he's so sweet that he's very very soft spoken and I noticed that a lot because when I met Crown the empire with um Andy the lead singer when we were all like hanging out. And he was talking and it was like a big group of us. Well first it was funny because it like it was a bunch. It was all girls except the band members that were there and he was all like. Um, never been in a room with this many girls before and he was just like very nervous. You could tell just by the way he was acting this very nervous and like ansy and then also with Craig he was just very like like just so soft spoken and just I don't know kind of. To himself and it's crazy when you see them on stage because it's so fucking different. It's like a completely different person on their own stage I feel like I've seen that a lot where a lot of artists are more like introverted and like shy. But then they get on stage and it's like a whole different whole different. Ballgame here I was it was insane. Um, but now I I finally saw cra owewin's live and it was so fantastic. He was amazing and then I also found out that I don't know if you know this.

16:47.33 tduval18 But the cpr dummy doll. Okay, that was a mold from a girl in I think it was that like in the nineteenth century I didn't know that so just to sum it up. There was. Ah, girl young girl I think she was like a teenager she drowned in this river and. Out. They had her like they advertised that advertiser as sounds awful but they were trying to identify this girl. Nobody knew who she was nobody claimed her and the way I guess she passed away like by drowning her facial expression. He said like the person that solid was just so calming. And also granted this was back in the nineteenth century so he like took a mold of her face and just had that mold and then that was used as like art I guess like that mold and then in 1950 when people were doing like going to school for being doctors and shit they were legit practicing cpr on each other like compressions. That's right, that's so dangerous. Yes, dude like they were straight of doing that I said the 1 dude that was in medical school went to his mom's house.

18:12.55 tduval18 Where he saw like the mold of this girl hanging up on her wall like I don't know if it was like the legit mold if it was just like a picture of a mold and then that's when he thought of using that particular mold and making it into a dummy and then I think it was in 1960 then that's when people started using cpr gummies as training as training purposes that's fucking cool as shit, but it was all based on this girl who drowned and then some dude was like you know what she has a really cool expression I'm gonna I'm gonna put a mold on that. So is that counting as your fun fact at fun facts with Ashley this month because that is actually the coolest shit I've ever heard I did not know that and I've been and I I've been in the medical field for ten plus years that's insane wow hu look I'm like the more you know the more you know so I don't know if they're all the same but majority on them all look the same because it was a girl a teenage girl back in the nineteenth century who drowned and no one claimed her that's sad but wild. Oh yeah, does does it also who. Shit or it I forgot what I was gonna say so am my bad but it is book of the month this month I not gonna lie have been struggling to figure out what book I want to put um.

19:43.27 tduval18 Solely because at this point I'm reading so many books that sometimes it's hard to be like okay this what happened in this one? Um, but I'm going to go with maybe in another life by Taylor Jenkins read this book is really interesting because it kind of goes. It tells the story of 1 girl, but it tells if 1 chance read like 1 chance encounter did happen or didn't happen and so it shows you the 2 different ways her life like her life could have went and it's really interesting to see like. Sometimes you shouldn't struggle on the what if because whatever's going to happen is going to be that destiny and it's like a flip of a coin and I think people have talked about it too before it's like um, what do you call? it. It's parallel universes right? like every chance you get. Splits off like there might be a universe where I didn't work at gershpes so then I didn't meet Jake and like all of these types of things or I didn't go to middlesex elementary so you and I didn't become friends but then in this reality this is it. And it's just kind of really cool take on that and I liked it like the going back and forth because you just got to see of like what little things change. So that's my book pick of the month this month well that that's cool concept. There's a movie like that. Um on netflix.

21:09.64 tduval18 Forgot what the name of it is but it has lily reinhard in it and I really really liked that movie too. So maybe check that out. Um, and then what is your song of the week um well everyone real quick have you watched the new season of you yet. No jake and I remember we. That's one of the few shows we watched together. So we're going to watch start it tonight and you know Jake likes to do 2 episodes at a time so in a month check back with me say it's so good. But now I was excited I called Jake last night because Netflix sent me like an email saying like you is now here and I was like Booch. We need to watch it on date. No you like they? yeah ya because I love you I'm actually gonna be really sad when it ends but he better not kill like my girl. No my little librarian like don't kill her mayor Marion Marion mary meredith is gray's anatomy thank you very much. Also the office meredith meredith now just for any gray's anatomy fans I had ashley watch it with me when she was here and she talked about how meredith mouth is weird and now I can't un fucking see it so I was at the crooked. It's a crookie. Or something. Yes, yes, um, but go ahead pick your song of the week so my song the week is a band from p they're they're on torn with drugs right now and.

22:39.10 tduval18 They played for Craig while he was playing because I guess he didn't have a band so I thought that was really cool that they got to play with Craig anyway, so they're called burials and they released their album last year at the end of last year in october but there's a song called circles and it's pretty sick like they're actually a really good band and I've been listening to them a lot I shouldn't get their merch I'm so mad and give one of their t-shirts just to help support them. You really should have but listening to them that supports them too. Yeah, boom. Um, so I'm go in new school but old school in these streets. Pair Morere whose album was supposed to drop next month. They I woke up this morning and they had just dropped the album so I was like fuck. Yes, so I've been listening to it and their song running out of the time running out of time is just. A whole fucking vibe for me right now and I just love paramore like they're always going to be 1 of my like a 1 bands. Um, and I just love them and if you haven't already check out burials check out Paramore like we are all about our music. Um. But anything else. You want to add in there before we log out from this. No I love that was it all right guys. Well we love y'all. We will have this episode dropping on Saturdays we're now being pretty consistent and we have a really cool producer aka my cousin who is setting stuff up and helping us so you're about to see more consistency.

24:14.17 tduval18 Better stuff coming up. Um, probably not better internet because California doesn't like Ashley but you know that's more of a reason for her to move home and we could record together and make a pod lab. Um, otherwise we love y'all. We'll see you next week and it's been another fun episode see. Ah.

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